I got to admit. I like the title of this post.I decided on what topic to write about and pow! the title just came out straight. Good one too. Blowing my own horn? haha. Pardon me.
I want to write this post up to give up a few tips that might be handy if you want to approach someone you dont know. It’s no big secret or anything but it is something that we (usually guys) dont get it right the first time.
No, no, I’m not saying that your method of saying ‘hi’ to someone is wrong and my technique will always work like it’s some sort of drug. I’m just giving up this tip to polish up or as alternatives to your current method.
Why am I naming it ‘method’ like it’s some sort of ‘experiment’ anyway?
Okay,okay here’s the thing.You want to say ‘hi’ to a person, but you dont want to sound cliché at the same time. From my point of view, you want to be original as possible as you can.
So how would others normally do it?
Approach that person and say “Hi, my name is BlaBla. Whats your’s?”
How many times have you heard that? Probably 17 times throughout that day alone. Or to make it even more worse,you approach someone and say,
“Hey sexy. My name is BlaBla. What’s your number?”
You dont even know her name and you expect that person to hand out her/his phone number?
Okay here’s a sneaky (sneaky? err..I mean,thoughtful) way to do your approach.
Always add a comment before saying hi. This way you look innocent and its much more casual.Lets say you’re at the bus stop (for whatever reason you are there, I dont want to know)
Then you saw this one girl you want to approach and have a conversation with(dont think about getting a number yet),
Approach her (or get near) and add a comment that she can possibility relate to. For example, you can say,
“This bus is always late.Dont you think so?” She would probably agree with you or add her own comment. Then only you can ‘hi’ her,
“Hi,my name is Aidil” *handshake* “How long have you been waiting here?”
And the conversation goes on.
You get the idea? This also works if you want to approach someone virtually,say, in a chat room.
Instead of saying “Hi, can I get to know you?” in your first private message, you can look at her recent status(or updates) and then use that to create conversations.If her recent status is “I hate Monday!” you can private message her saying “Having a tough day?”
Remember, comment on things that the other person can relate at that particular moment.
This will capture that person’s attention and normally the feedback that you’ll get is always positive. I know because I’ve tried it myself. (Use that all the time)
In a nutshell, saying ‘hi’ to someone is not a hard thing to do, but to get a person’s attention to say ‘hi’ back at you is a tricky one sometimes. So it’s either the first ‘hi’ or the last ‘bye bye’ from that person.
Wish you the best.
Say hi to me when you’re free. I’m on Facebook and also twitter most of the time.(Dont worry, I wont say bye
(picture credit : stallio, .je)
November 20th, 2009 → 7:30 am @ AidilFS
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