Its stoppage time.Your team gets a penalty. Its time to reward your team with a goal.Which may decide the fate of that match.
If you think that I’m a football fan,you’re wrong. I do watch football but I’m not a fan of that sport. I’m more of motor racing kind of guy.
But what inspired me to write this post is after I watched a football match a few days ago. The teams might be different, the tactics and players are different, but one thing that every single football time have in common is the drive to score goals.
And then,it got me thinking. What drives a couple in a relationship? Of course it’s about love,andsex. But what do you hope for in a relationship? Where are you and your partner are going to be in another 2 or 3 years? Which only leads me to one question…
Do you have a goal in your relationship?
I truly believe that every relationship needs a goal. It doesnt matter if it’s a short-term or long-term goal. But we need to know where we are heading. We are creatures of goals and accomplishments.Without goals we are basically travelling blind.
Relationship is not an exception to that.I remember talking to a friend and when she talked about how she felt ‘empty’ in the relationship, I knew what shes going through. The relationship is not going anywhere because she and her partner never set course on where to go and what to achieve as a couple.
The saying “going with the flow” is not always the mindset you want to use because pretty sooner or later theres no ‘flow’ to catch when you remain static.
What kind of goals? Thats up for you and your partner to decided.Some of the examples can be
- getting married
- getting engaged
- raise enough money for a cause (a trip maybe)
- live in the same state by next year (if you’re currently in a long distance relationship)
- get to know her or his family
It can be anything. Ask yourself what do you want from the relationship and then set a goal. Work with your partner towards that goal. And hopefully, a little cherry of happiness will follow.
Just like the penalty shoot out,you need to have a goal in order to score.
(picture credit : Darco )
November 10th, 2009 → 10:44 am @ AidilFS
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